Q: how does this work?
A: Read my website carefully and decide if we're a good match. If you feel that we are, fill out my contact form. I reply to all inquiries, even when I reject them. CHECK YOUR SPAM FOLDERS. If I don't reply to you within 72 hours you should inquire again as something might've gone wrong.
If I believe we have chemistry we'll schedule a date. I'll ask for your screening information and for you to send a small deposit to prove you're serious before we meet. Once I receive both and everything checks out we're all set!
Q: I want to serve you, but I want to remain anonymous.
A: I'm discreet, but discretion does not equal anonymity. If you don't want to give me proof of your name, you can give me a minimum of two professional references with active social medias and websites. If you don't have that, and you don't want to give your name, then you're not seeing me-- simple as that. I do not negotiate when it comes to my safety. My email is encrypted and everything I own has multi-factor authentication. Feel free to check out my client testimonials and my social media to make sure I'm reputable and discreet. I'm verified on multiple sites and I have an abundance of evidence to show I'm trusted, you don't. I am inviting you into my private space, alone with me, so I need to be 100% certain you are safe. If you can't trust me with your name, how can you trust me with your body? Be logical.
Besides, would you really want to see someone who doesn't carefully screen? Someone who lets potential psychos, stalkers, and pigs through the same door that you hope to securely, privately, and discreetly walk through? I'd hope not.
A Dominatrix that is willing to see you without screening puts not just her own safety at risk, but yours as well.
Q: What are your hard limits?
A: It should go without saying, but I do not offer sexual services of any kind. This includes anything ending in "-job" or "-lingus"
You will not be allowed contact with my most intimate areas. No "body worship", "oral servitude", or whatever sly term people are using for cunnilingus now. Pushing my limits in any capacity or trying to touch my intimate areas will get you kicked out immediately.
I do not conduct sessions while topless or nude.
No face sitting unless I'm fully clothed.
No showers of any kind. Drinking from a glass or funnel with advanced notice may happen if I'm in the mood.
I do not switch in any capacity.
No in person cuckholding.
I do not do anything which I do not have the expertise to do safely.
No Smoking of any kind
No Public Play (outside of kink events)
*I only use some toys with people I know on a personal basis.
Q: What is your tribute / Can you do x amount / Do I need to send a deposit?
A: See my Contact Form for my tribute information.
My tribute is based on my talents and expenses, not your budget. I do not see people without a deposit sent in advance. NO EXCEPTIONS. Yes, I understand scammers exist, however, you must understand that my inbox is flooded with time-wasters. Asking for a deposit is the most efficient way of filtering them out and until I receive it I will assume there's a chance that you are wasting my time. Our time together is only reserved when the deposit is given. Feel free to research me (I'm verified on multiple websites) and check out my testimonials to make sure I'm reputable.
Q: Are you looking for personal / domestic / errand slaves? What about a video slave?
A: No, I'm very happy with my current personal submissives. If that changes, I will post on Twitter. Don't ask otherwise.
Q: What will our session be like / What are you going to do to me / What happens in your sessions?
A: I understand you're nervous and excited, but I have no idea what I'm going to do to you until the time comes. I am too passionate and primal in nature to follow a plan. It'll depend on what I'm feeling at that time and our mutual interests. You're just going to have to trust me and find out. I don't have scripts or motions I go through and no two sessions are the same. Even if I did know, I wouldn't want to ruin the surprise anyway... The whole point is to give up control to me. Not knowing what I'm going to do is a big part of that.
Q: I'm not really into pain, is that OK?
A: Of course! Pain is just one of the many aspects of BDSM. If there's mutual chemistry, one can easily enjoy an active D/s relationship without the involvement of pain. Many of the wonderful people I play with focus on more sensual domination and Total Power Exchange. If you'd like a little taste of pain, we can always try that, but it's not required nor will I be upset if it's not your kink. I actually focus more on the B/D part of BDSM myself.
Q: I'm afraid of being scammed. How do I know you're real and safe?
A: Did you look through my website or social media? I post constantly and I'm verified on multiple sites that require ID and other forms of identification. (Search for me on Niteflirt, Onlyfans, SextPanther, Try$t Ads, etc). I also have a Testimonials page with tons of reviews. Do you really think I'd throw away the reputation I spent years building for your tiny deposit? Doubtful.
Q: What's your "real" name / Are you dating anyone / Where do you work?
A: Doesn't matter how close we've become, these questions are never appropriate.
Q: Who do you enjoy doing double Domme Sessions with?
A: I love doubles with a passion but do not assume I will do a double session with anyone. Just like how I'm picky with who I let serve Me, I'm also picky with who I do doubles with. There has to be good chemistry for us all to have an amazing time. I have a few friends who I enjoy playing with, feel free to ask me for their info.
Q: What is your cancellation policy?
A: The second our appointment is booked, that time is reserved for you no matter what other inquires I receive. If you cancel within 24 hours of our appointment it is unlikely that I will be able to fill that time, so your deposit will be kept as a cancellation fee. If you cancel with more than 24 hours notice, your deposit may be used for our next booking (besides in very unique scenarios). I understand life happens, but that's precisely why I need the policy.
Q: What are your cleaning protocols?
A: This actually rarely gets asked, which is a shame since I work really hard making sure everything is sanitary and up to standard. My methods of cleaning vary depending on the materials being cleaned, but these are my general cleaning standards, practices, and methods of sterilization:
Sporicidin Disinfectant solution: Sporicidin has been used in hospital, medical and dental environments since 1978 and provides 100% kill of disease and odor-causing organisms. It's effective against most common organisms, including H1N1, AIDS, MRSA, Influenza A2, Avian Flu, VRE, TB, Herpes, Escherichia coli (E.coli) and many others. It is recommended for use in the clean-up of blood and body fluids that pose bacterial, fungal and viral health hazards.
Claviwipes: Kills TB in 3 minutes, and MRSA, HIV-1, HBV and HCV in 2 minutes. I try to keep these hidden, but if you see them out do not use them without my permission as they require gloves to handle.
Foaming toy cleaner: I tend to use System JO Refresh Foaming Toy Cleaner. It's a non-residue leaving cleaner specifically for adult toys. Usually I use this on silicone and metal items then follow up with a 30 minute boil in a sterilized pot.
There are Lysol disinfectant wipes and alcohol spray in every room for general surfaces.
Weiman Leather Cleaner and Conditioner: This is used on my leather products after wiping them down with Sporiciden spray (and leaving the spray on for ~10 minutes). This keeps my leather moisturized and prevents cracking from the disinfectants I use.
Puppy pads, water-proof blankets: I often use these on my rugs so I don't have to steam clean every session.
Bissell ProHeat 2X Revolution Max Clean Pet Pro Full-Size Carpet Cleaner, 1986, with Antibacterial Formula for my rugs.
Floors are regularly washed with either Bona Hardwood Floor Cleaner, Pine-Sol or my Swiffer wet jet.
Laundry and bondage ropes are washed in my Samsung washer and dryer on disinfectant mode using Arm and Hammer laundry detergent.